DEAR HELOISE: It is customary, particularly in small communities, to take food to a family who recently had a loved one pass away. I have another suggestion to add onto this:

Also take paper goods, such as toilet paper, paper plates and cups, as well as disposable silverware. This will make it easier for the family to deal with visitors. Ice and garbage bags are useful, too. We often don't think of these things, but they are really appreciated.

Send hints to Heloise, P.O. Box 795001, San Antonio, TX 78279-5001 or email Heloise@Heloise.com.